From Jethro to Moses, Moses to Joshua, Elijah to Elisha, and Paul to Timothy, we see a pattern: God’s work advances when leaders pour into others. Mentoring is not about competition—it’s about multiplication. When we invest in someone else, we’re extending Kingdom impact far beyond ourselves. You must participate in ministry without competition within the Body of Christ if you are to be successful!
Over the past few weeks ("Activate Abundance" series, choose any of those 4 posts), we’ve seen how unity in the body of Christ grows stronger when we pray for one another, encourage one another, celebrate one another, and refuse to compete with one another. I want to look at another way to build unity: mentoring. Scripture shows us again and again that God’s work thrives when one generation invests in the next, not as rivals, but as partners in Kingdom purpose.
Psalm 145:4 states, “One generation shall praise Your works to another, And shall declare Your mighty acts”. This is a powerful reminder to us that faith is not meant to be kept private. Your gifts are not to be contained within a single lifetime. It’s a sacred responsibility — each generation carries the testimony of God’s goodness, passing it on so the next can run their own race with faith and confidence. When we share our stories of God’s faithfulness, we give our children and spiritual sons and daughters a foundation. Every praise we speak, every miracle we recall, every moment we testify of God’s grace becomes a seed of faith in the next generation—ensuring that His glory is never forgotten.
Let’s look at a few examples of mentorship in the Bible, examples where ministry without competition was chosen:
Jethro and Moses – Wisdom for Leadership
“Moses’ father-in-law said to him, “The thing that you do is not good. Both you and these people who are with you will surely wear yourselves out. For this thing is too much for you; you are not able to perform it by yourself. Listen now to my voice; I will give you counsel, and God will be with you” Exodus 18:17-19)
When Moses was overwhelmed with leading the people, his father-in-law Jethro stepped in—not to take over, but to mentor him in wise leadership (Exodus 18:13–24. Oh, how I desperately want to go into a lecture on over-functioning right now, but I’ll demonstrate some self control and stay on track!). Jethro taught Moses to delegate, raising up other leaders so he wouldn’t burn out and so that more people could receive the wisdom and guidance that they needed so badly. This moment of mentoring multiplied effectiveness and preserved Moses’ strength for the long haul.
Moses and Joshua – Preparing the Next Leader
“the Lord said to Moses: ‘Take Joshua the son of Nun with you, a man in whom is the Spirit, and lay your hand on him; set him before Eleazar the priest and before all the congregation, and inaugurate him in their sight. And you shall give some of your authority to him, that all the congregation of the children of Israel may be obedient” Numbers 27:18-20
Moses invested in Joshua by bringing him close, letting him witness leadership firsthand, and commissioning him publicly (Numbers 27:18–20; Deuteronomy 31:7–8). Moses didn’t treat Joshua as competition, but poured into him so Israel could move forward after his time was done. Look at this phrase: “that all the congregation… may be obedient” (27:20). This mentorship, one on one, would create a huge, far-reaching impact - and we still feel this today! Joshua’s success was in large part due to Moses’ intentional mentoring. Ministry without competition - Moses wanted Joshua set up for success.
Elijah and Elisha – Passing the Mantle
“Elijah said to Elisha, “Ask! What may I do for you, before I am taken away from you?” 1 Kings 2:9
Don’t miss this: Elijah initiated the question. Knowing that his time on earth was short (1 Kings 2:1 tells us that the Lord was about to take Elijah up to heaven), he wants to make sure that Elisha is equipped to continue the work. Feel the weight of this: Elijah has literal minutes left on earth. We put a big emphasis on “final words”, don’t we? These words create legacy, these words would be remembered, and Elijah uses this time to find out what else he can do for Elisha. That’s powerful.
Elisha followed Elijah closely, serving him and learning from him before stepping into prophetic ministry himself (1 Kings 19:19–21; 2 Kings 2:9–15). Elijah modeled bold faith and obedience in front of Elisha. Elisha asked for and received a “double portion” of his spirit. The mentoring relationship multiplied prophetic impact across generations. Look at the example: because Elijah refused to compete, Elisha had space and grace to grow into a prophetic ministry - which literally was double the impact of Elijah’s ministry. We talk a lot about the “double portion”, that’s a familiar phrase - but don’t overlook the fact that Elijah initiated this conversation and made space for Elisha’s request.
Elijah paved the way for Elisha’s ministry, and shares in the legacy created here. That’s a win-win! That's ministry without competition.
Paul and Timothy – Spiritual Sonship
“For all seek their own, not the things which are of Christ Jesus. But you know [Timothy’s] proven character, that as a son with his father he served with me in the gospel” Philippians 2:21-22
Paul calls Timothy his “true son in the faith.” He discipled him, trained him in doctrine, entrusted him with leadership assignments, and encouraged him to be bold despite his youth (2 Timothy 1:2–6; 1 Corinthians 4:17; Philippians 2:19–22). Timothy carried on Paul’s work, not as a copy, but as a faithful leader shaped through intentional mentoring. In sending him to the Philippians, he gives such a powerful compliment and recommendation: “you know his proven character”. This didn’t take anything away from Paul - Paul’s ministry was so vast and so fruitful. Can you imagine if Paul did not refuse to compete? Can you imagine if Paul insisted on doing all the work himself, in an effort to keep all the glory for himself?
"Refuse to Compete" Mentality in Action
Careful, please….. “in an effort to keep all the glory for himself”. Can you think of any other reason we would have to engage in competition with any of our brothers and sisters in Christ? We have to start living and operating as if John 10:10 is absolutely unequivocally true: “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”. That means abundance for me, abundance for you, abundance for all of us - there is no lack in God.
Let’s circle back really quickly to Psalm 145:4 before we close up for today - “ “One generation shall praise Your works to another, And shall declare Your mighty acts”. Shall - we don’t have to look at that up in the Strong’s, do we? It’s not a suggestion like “we could praise God’s works to the next generation” or an encouragement like “we should praise God’s works to the next generation”. It’s a command - we shall.
Unfortunately, we have a biblical example of a generation dropping the ball: “And there arose another generation after them who did not know the LORD nor the work which He had done for Israel" (Judges 2:10). One generation shirked the responsibility and the very next generation did not know the Lord. Okay, so for this blog that’s a rabbit trail - but it’s a great place to start next week! If you haven’t joined the mailing list yet, do that today!
Mentoring builds unity and ends competition - and God’s kingdom is expanded exponentially! Choose collaboration, choose mentorship, choose ministry without competition. That’s a treasure we can enjoy together!
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In the last few posts, we’ve talked about the power of lifting others up—through prayer, through encouragement, and through collaboration. All of these flow from a heart that values unity in the body of Christ. We’ve got one more obstacle we have to be on guard against if we’re going to walk in true unity: the spirit of competition. Nothing derails teamwork faster than rivalry, jealousy, or the need to “outdo” someone else. You cannot compete with a member of your own team and win: we are in this together! You must refuse to compete within the Body of Christ.
Paul started encouraging the believers in this a long time ago, this is not a new concept at all. He wrote to the Corinthians, “There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn’t matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts” (1 Cor. 12:12-14).
He didn’t stop there - he went on to a rather lengthy explanation of what we probably consider an elementary concept: the body needs eyes, nose, ears, feet, hands - one cannot leave the body to work on its own and they all need each other for the body to work properly. (I wonder if the Corinthians thought as they listened, “Really, Pastor? I think we are beyond this!” - but Paul knew differently! They needed the lesson again - and so do we!)
Competition Steals Joy and Kills Collaboration: Refuse to Compete!
God’s call on your life is unique—you’re not running someone else’s race, you’re running your own. Let’s learn how to silence the voice of comparison, embrace our God-given assignments, and celebrate abundance in the body of Christ.
Competition often comes from insecurity and fear of losing what we think belongs to us. That’s what we have called “scarcity mentality” throughout this series (link here). I’ll say it louder for the people in the back: there is no room for scarcity mentality in the Body of Christ! Please remember: in the Kingdom of God, there’s no scarcity—only abundance. The Bible gives us sobering examples of where jealousy and competition destroyed lives, relationships, and even nations.
Jealousy & Competition in Scripture: A Trail of Destruction
Saul and David
1 Samuel 18:7–9 – “As they danced, they sang: ‘Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.’ Saul was very angry; this refrain displeased him greatly. ‘They have credited David with tens of thousands,’ he thought, ‘but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?’ And from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David.”
- Saul’s jealousy of David turned celebration into suspicion.
- Instead of mentoring the next leader, Saul spent years trying to destroy him.
- Competition blinded Saul to the bigger picture—God’s kingdom was advancing.
David and Absalom
2 Samuel 15:6 – “Absalom behaved in this way toward all the Israelites who came to the king asking for justice, and so he stole the hearts of the people of Israel.”
- Absalom wasn’t content to support his father’s throne; he wanted it for himself.
- His ambition divided the kingdom, caused war, and ultimately led to his death.
- Competition drove him to manipulate people rather than serve them.
Mordecai and Haman
Esther 5:13 – “But all this gives me no satisfaction as long as I see that Jew Mordecai sitting at the king’s gate.”
- Haman had wealth, power, and influence, but envy consumed him.
- His jealousy led him to plan genocide against an entire people.
- Competition with Mordecai revealed the emptiness of his heart.
Warnings from Scripture About Envy & Jealousy
Grab your bible and your highlighter, here we go:
James 3:14–16 “But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such ‘wisdom’ does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.”
- Jealousy is not a minor flaw; it opens the door to evil.
- It breeds chaos, division, and destruction.
Galatians 5:19–21 “The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
- Paul puts jealousy and envy in the same list as idolatry and immorality.
- Competition is not harmless—it is a barrier to the Kingdom of God.
Proverbs 14:30 “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”
- Envy corrodes us from the inside out.
- Jealousy doesn’t just damage relationships—it destroys the person holding it.
Honestly, I can keep this up all day - let me stop there before I wear both of us out. Thanks for staying with me!
Shifting the Lens: The Beauty of Collaboration & Teamwork
Not all stories end in rivalry—many show the fruit of unity and partnership. Where competition kills, collaboration brings life and multiplies impact. Look at the flip side with me:
David and Jonathan
1 Samuel 18:3–4 – “And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword, his bow and his belt.”
- Jonathan could have seen David as a rival for the throne.
- Instead, he laid down his own claim to stand beside God’s chosen king.
- Collaboration in friendship preserved David’s life and secured Israel’s future.
Paul and Timothy
Philippians 2:19–22 – “I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon, that I also may be cheered when I receive news about you. I have no one else like him, who will show genuine concern for your welfare. For everyone looks out for their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. But you know that Timothy has proved himself, because as a son with his father he has served with me in the work of the gospel.”
- Timothy wasn’t in competition with Paul—he served alongside him.
- Their collaboration was marked by mutual trust and shared mission.
- This partnership advanced the gospel across the world.
The Early Church
Acts 2:44–47 – “All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.”
- Collaboration wasn’t optional—it was the way the church survived and thrived.
- Unity led to generosity, joy, and exponential growth.
Choosing Abundance over Competition
Competition, the scarcity mentality says: “There’s not enough room for both of us”, “If you are loved, it must be that I am unloved”, “if you are talented/successful, it must mean that I am not talented/succesful”, you see how the downward spiral goes.
I want to return to Haman and Mordecai for a minute, this is such a powerful and sobering example of the scarcity mentality. Look at this:
“That day Haman was happy. So he left the palace in a good mood. Haman called together his friends and his wife Zeresh…. He bragged to them about how rich he was. He talked about how many sons he had. He spoke about all the ways the king had honored him. He bragged about how the king had given him a high position. It was higher than the position of any of the other nobles and officials. “And that’s not all,” Haman added. “I’m the only person Queen Esther invited to come with the king to the feast she gave. Now she has invited me along with the king tomorrow. But even all of that doesn’t satisfy me. I won’t be satisfied as long as I see that Jew Mordecai sitting at the palace gate.” Esther 5:9, 11-13
Don’t miss this: Haman recognizes that Mordecai’s presence has absolutely nothing to do with him. Even when Mordecai was honored, there was no loss or demotion to Haman in any way. Somehow, the enemy twisted it in his mind - he adopted an imaginary offense and a scarcity mentality. Being afraid that he had risen as far as he could go, he decided that the only option was to kick others down in order to make himself look good. Read this book (the Bible) or this book (my commentary on Esther), the scarcity mentality will bring you down.
Teamwork says: “There’s more than enough in the Kingdom of God.” Refusing to compete puts us in line with Christ’s promise of an abundant life in John 10:10, :I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”. Envy robs us, but unity multiplies blessing.
Is there someone else in your field? Rejoice because more work is being done! Is another minister preaching the Word? Was your church preaching the Word while the church parking lot down the street was also full? Celebrate that neighbor pastor - Jesus is being glorified! If your co-laborer is winning, friend, guess what? You are winning too!
Lay down competition, refuse to participate in jealousy. When we work together, we activate God’s abundance - and receiving His promise, actually living the abundant life that Jesus promises is a treasure that you won’t want to let go!
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I knew that there was a phrase “us four and no more”, but I didn’t know it was a whole syndrome (I googled it, LOL!)! Phrase or syndrome, it’s not good - collaboration is key in the Kingdom! When we adopt this “us four and no more” mentality, when we allow that scarcity mentality in, we are making a mistake that limits our potential. God’s work is rarely done in isolation. We need collaboration with God’s people!
What is collaboration? This is an action: the process of working together or cooperating, and it could also be a noun: a product resulting from working together or cooperating. I’ve hit the example of Peter calling the other nearby fisherman to help him collect that miraculous catch (Luke 5) pretty hard lately, so I’ll give you a break on that one. The Word is FULL of examples that demonstrate to us that we are built for community and that we need to operate in unity, in collaboration to see the Kingdom of God expand!
Biblical Examples of Collaboration in the Old Testament:
Moses, Aaron, and Hur (Exodus 17:8–13): when Israel fought the Amalekites, Moses needed help to keep his hands raised. This was necessary: “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning”. Aaron and Hur stepped in, literally holding his arms up, and the whole nation benefitted from their teamwork.
Joshua and the people marching around Jericho (Joshua 6): the walls didn’t fall because of one man—they fell because the entire nation followed God’s instructions together in unity.
Nehemiah and the wall builders (Nehemiah 3–6): the people “had a mind to work” and rebuilt Jerusalem’s walls side by side. Each family/tribe had a section, but the work came together as one.
David’s mighty men (2 Samuel 23:8–39): though David was their leader, he didn’t win battles alone—his “mighty men” fought alongside him, each bringing their strength to the team.
Biblical Examples of Collaboration in the New Testament:
The Paralytic’s Four Friends (Mark 2:1–12; Luke 5:17–26): these four men worked together to bring their friend to Jesus—literally carrying him and lowering him through the roof. Their unified faith resulted in healing and forgiveness.
Jesus sending out the disciples two by two (Mark 6:7; Luke 10:1): He didn’t send them alone—He intentionally paired them up, teaching that ministry is meant to be shared.
The Early Church (Acts 2:42–47; Acts 4:32–35): they shared meals, prayers, resources, and mission. Their radical unity gave their witness power.
Paul’s missionary teams (Acts 13–20; many Epistles): Paul rarely traveled alone—Barnabas, Silas, Timothy, Luke, Priscilla & Aquila, and others formed ministry teams. He constantly acknowledged coworkers (Romans 16 lists several of them).
These examples show collaboration at every level: leadership teams, whole communities, small groups of friends - where can you join in?
Practical Collaboration: How to Share Resources in Ministry
This isn't a blog today, is it? This is a series of lists…. Sorry! (maybe not sorry!) I want to give you practical ways to share share share!
Simple, Right-Now Collaboration (Easy to Start Today):
- Invite someone to church or an event – share your personal invitation; a text, call, or social media post works
- Share a podcast episode or blog post – help extend the ministry’s voice by forwarding content to friends, family, or small groups. Post encouraging content on social media – a short “Check this out!” post about a sermon, devotional, or ministry update. Pray for the ministry or pastor – let them know you’re actively praying and encourage others to join
- Send a note of encouragement – a short, thoughtful message (email, text, or handwritten) can strengthen morale and connection
All of this is collaboration with a ministry, leader, author, creator, pastor - this is you being part of the team, even if it is more passive. Support is support!
Active, More Personal Collaboration (Investing Time or Resources):
- Volunteer your time or skills – help with event planning, social media, mentoring, or administrative tasks
- Provide or create resources – share useful tools, teaching materials, study guides, or books that support the ministry’s goals
- Mentor or coach others – guide someone in faith, leadership, or life skills, extending the ministry’s impact
- Financial support or sponsorship – invest in the ministry’s projects, events, or outreach efforts
- Collaborate on content creation – help write, film, or produce podcasts, blogs, or devotionals; or offer research and ideas to enhance messages
This is you collaborating as a team member, more active support! Active or passive, just get started sharing!
I had reached out to an author friend of mine once. She had written a devotional that was really meaningful to me. I wanted to share one of her concepts, and messaged her to ask for permission. I was not surprised by her reaction (because I knew her heart), but this is so opposite what many people (even in Christendom) think, it’s worth sharing here:
I asked if I could share her insight and of course mentioned that I would give her credit. I offered to have her as a guest on my podcast, she was welcome to share this insight firsthand. Want to know what her response was? It will bless you as it blessed me!
She said, “Jennifer, of course you can share what you read! Give me credit or don’t give me credit, that doesn’t matter to me - it was an insight from the Lord, it was never mine in the first place! Yes, of course I will come on the podcast if you like - but don’t let scheduling get in the way of getting the Word out! Oh my goodness, with or without me, share!”
I did give her credit, of course - it was an honor to collaborate and I am so blessed by her ministry! Talk about the opposite of scarcity mentality! I loved it and I was inspired by her all over again!
In collaborating, we are holding each other’s arms up and we are winning! My friend shared with me, I shared with you, you shared with them, they shared with….. And that number grows and grows!
Why Collaboration Matters
I think the enemy of collaboration is competition. I think the root of competition many times can be found in jealousy (not good - see James 3:14-16, we talked about this in https://connectmentoringnetwork.org/prayer/pray-for-others-success-how-to-overcome-envy-in-ministry/) and in fear. When we allow fear and jealousy to dictate our actions, we miss out on the extraordinary outcomes that happen when God’s people unite in purpose.
It’s been lists today - let’s keep that going:
- Collaboration is necessary in ministry because no one person can fulfill the calling of God alone. Even the most gifted leaders are limited in time, resources, and perspective.
- Collaboration cultivates unity in the Body of Christ. Jesus prayed in John 17 that His followers would be one, just as He and the Father are one. When believers collaborate instead of compete, we reflect Christ’s love and unity to the world.
- Collaboration encourages accountability, growth, and the development of new ideas. By sharing insights, experiences, and spiritual gifts, we create a culture of mutual support that is far more fruitful than working in isolation.
- Collaboration also protects us from burnout. Ministry can be demanding, and trying to do everything alone can quickly exhaust even the most passionate leaders. When we share responsibilities and resources, we not only relieve the pressure on ourselves but also allow others to contribute their unique talents.
Collaboration in ministry is also an act of obedience and trust. It says, “God, I believe You have given others gifts to complement mine, and I am willing to work together for Your glory.” When fear and jealousy are set aside, and unity and purpose are prioritized, collaboration allows the Kingdom to expand far beyond what any one of us could accomplish alone. In ministry, as in life, we are far stronger together than apart.
So share share share! Together is a treasure!
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For those of you who know me, you know that spiritual friendship and healthy relationships in leadership is something that I invest in (check out my series on God-given friendships on my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JenniferWSpivey/playlists). Perhaps through the years, due to those investments, the Lord has had those people in place for me - right people at the right time. Every time I’ve had a change of season, the Lord has blessed me with champions and cheerleaders who were there to encourage me, there to speak life into what God was doing in me. In turn, I hope I’ve taken every opportunity for speaking life into those God placed in my path as well!
In this season in particular, the Lord has given me practical ways to encourage and speak life into others. I’ve been hosting “work days” around my dining room table and in corners of local coffee shops. (I need a new name - “work day” makes me think of picking weeds or cleaning out closets at the church. Anyone else remember church work days?). It’s been so much fun - creating pathways for others to get started doing what they feel like the Lord is calling them to. It makes me think of Zechariah 4:10 which says, “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin”. If God is rejoicing/speaking life, I want to rejoice with Him - and be an impetus for a beginning if I can be!
So…. lately, I’ve been skipping the history lesson, but let’s have it today just for fun! (I’m pretending that the history lesson is fun for you, too - just roll with me and I’ll make it short, LOL!):
History Lesson Behind Speaking Life 🙂
You need to know three things:
- Who is Zerubbabel? Zerubbabel was the governor of Judah, and he was tasked with rebuilding the Temple after the Babylonian exile (Ezra 3–6, Haggai 1–2). At the moment Zechariah is prophesying here, the project had been stalled for years due to opposition and limited resources - the people were discouraged. To see Zerubbabel with the plumb line in his hand was a visible sign that work was beginning again.
- What is a plumb line? A plumb line is a simple but ancient tool: a cord with a weight at the bottom. Builders used it to establish a true vertical line. By holding it against a wall or structure, they could see if it was straight or leaning. It ensured accuracy and alignment in construction.
- Why is this important in Zechariah 4? The plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand is significant because seeing Zerubbabel with the plumb line in hand was a visible sign that work was beginning again.
So when Zechariah says “the Lord rejoices to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand”, he is essentially saying: “God is not only going to be pleased with the finished temple, He is rejoicing TODAY at the beginning!”
Can we take this a little step further? This is just getting good! Hang with me!
The plumb line wasn’t the first step, the very first step was laying the foundation which had already been done years ago (Ezra 3:10–13). Seeing Zerubbabel raise the plumb line represents a fresh start in rebuilding. Using a plumb line is physically easy, but taking up the plumb line meant choosing to believe again, to press forward against opposition, small numbers, and the memory of Solomon’s grand temple. To use less words: THIS IS BIG! That’s why God tells them “Do not despise these small beginnings.”
The hardest part wasn’t holding the tool—it was mustering the faith, courage, and persistence to start again, trusting that God would bring the work to completion. While the tool itself was simple, the act of picking it up represented a huge step of faith in the face of discouragement.
Okay, are you still with me? Back to the day of small beginnings and speaking life into those in your sphere of influence:
Practical Ways of Speaking Life
I’ve had fun around my dining room table or in corners of coffee shops, speaking life into the fresh visions of others. Want to start a podcast? I can help you with that! Want to start a YouTube channel? Let’s talk! Want to blog? I’m excited to help! It’s a tribute and a passing it forward at the same time: I remember when someone taught me to do these things and more (that was a short list!) and now I’m excited to teach someone else. Let’s all win! The Lord rejoices to see a work begin - and I do too! As you are mustering the courage to raise the plumb line, to begin, I am cheering you on!
Someone reached out to me recently - “Can you share what you are doing?” Sure I can! This isn’t me inviting them into a space I own. This isn’t me creating competition for myself. This isn’t even me inviting them to join “my” team - if anything, I’m inviting them to join the Lord’s team! This isn’t mine! No matter how many women I am privileged to speak into, there’s MORE. We’re talking about the difference between incremental growth and exponential growth.
Lots of ways to speak lie and encourage those around you - start with the easiest: leave a comment, “like” or even “love”, share a post. Write a note, send a text, make a phone call.
Biblical Example of Speaking Life
This wasn’t ever my idea, anyway. Once again, Jesus directed us first, “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age” (Matthew 28:19-20).
Jesus was not afraid of competition, He had no scarcity mentality. Know what else He said? He said, “Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these” (John 14:12). He spoke LIFE into the disciples and by extension into us: “Go and make disciples who will then in turn also go and make disciples. You think these things I’ve done are great? You’re going to do even greater things than this!” Talk about speaking life, wow! Jesus invites us into His space to do even more than He did!
Speak life into the ministry of others - there is no competition here! Promoting the work of the Lord will activate abundance in your own life! If God is rejoicing, isn’t that all the encouragement we need to rejoice as well?
Here’s another thing about speaking life, raising that plumb line, beginning: whatever the Lord gives to you is really meant for the Body of Christ. Truth is His. Glory is His. Influence is His. If the Lord has given something to you, He has also given it for the expansion of the Kingdom. You have an insight? Share it. You have a skill set? Share it. You have an encouraging word? Share it. This is not only for you! What would happen if we kept the good things of the Lord to ourselves, for ourselves? Yikes. I won’t go down that rabbit trail - but I’d invite you to do that on your own for a minute. If the Lord gave it to you, He’s giving it to you to share with those around you.
Thinking back again to Peter inviting the other fishermen to help with the catch (Luke 5), thinking about Jesus who encourages us that we’ll do greater works than He did (John 14).... Thinking back to my childhood pastor telling me, “what you make happen for others, God will make happen for you”, let’s take the opportunity to champion the work of the Lord wherever we see it happen!
When you see someone “raise the plumb line”, remember the day that you made that seemingly small step yourself - cheer them on! Speaking life into others will activate abundance in your own life - and that’s a treasure!
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We talked a few weeks ago about “starting the clap” (blog, podcast), and I wanted to continue the discussion, maybe take it further. Beyond leaving behind competition, let’s crush the scarcity mentality and activate abundance in the entire Body of Christ. It’s not about me, it’s not about you, it’s about SOULS and expanding the kingdom of God! Step one: overcome envy in ministry - and to be honest, overcome envy in life!
What do I mean when I say “scarcity mentality”? Scarcity means “insufficiency or shortness of supply”. Scarcity is the opposite of abundance which is what Christ offers to us (John 10:10). When we adopt a “scarcity mentality”, we adopt a wrong way of thinking that there is not enough to go around, and the downward spiral begins: “if you are winning, it must mean that I am losing”, “if you are loved, it must mean that I am unloved”, “if you are successful, it must mean that I am not successful”. All of that is a lie from the enemy of your soul meant to isolate you and create competition between you and people who are on your team. Makes it impossible for you to “start the clap”.
Even though Christ means for us to live in abundance, it can be hard for some of us to recognize that abundance for one really and truly does mean abundance for all. God is no respecter of persons (Acts 10:34), what He is offering to one He really does offer to all. There is no competition, there is always enough, God’s gifts are abundant.
When we leave the scarcity mentality and truly recognize that the abundant life means abundant life, we realize that all of us can win, and we’ll actually want all of us to win! (And that’s just like God, isn’t it? To actually mean what He says? Make this thing called Christian discipleship easy on us to understand? Don’t overcomplicate, don’t overthink, don’t make this hard: you can celebrate what is happening in others because you recognize that their success doesn’t mean less for you.
Now let’s take the next step: actually desire for others to succeed! Pray for others’ success and see God enlarge their impact—for His glory.
Praying for Others Will Help You Overcome Envy
Praying for someone else’s success shifts our perspective from comparison to collaboration, from scarcity mentality to abundance mentality. Watch this shift: “if you are winning, it must mean that I am winning too - we are on the same team!”. Envy thrives in the space where we focus on what we don’t have, measuring our worth against another’s achievements. When we lift others up in prayer, our hearts align with God’s purposes (and as a side bonus, our own insecurities are diminished in the joy!). Sincere prayer trains us to see blessings as abundant, not scarce. Sincere prayer reminds us that celebrating someone else’s victories does not lessen our own. Actually - it cultivates excitement and gratitude for the ways God is already working in our lives.
Beyond perspective, prayer actively reshapes our hearts. When we sincerely ask God to bless others—to expand their impact, increase their influence, and empower their gifts—we begin to release control, comparison, and jealousy. We recognize that God’s kingdom is bigger than any one of us, and His plan for someone else’s success does not compete with ours. Over time, praying for others transforms envy into joy, replacing the subtle poison of resentment with a spirit of partnership and celebration. This is how the Body of Christ thrives: through mutual encouragement, support, and a shared desire to see God glorified in every life.
I could expand on this, but the Lord already inspired better writers than me to illustrate and drive home this principle - why put ruffles on the stars? Here’s some Scripture to put in your pocket as you break envy and pray for others:
Scripture Warnings Against Envy:
- James 3:14–16 – “But if you have bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth… For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.”
- Proverbs 14:30 – “A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.”
- Galatians 5:26 – “Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”
Prayers in Scripture that Bless Ministry Impact
- 1 Timothy 2:1 – Paul urges Timothy to pray for others: “First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people.”
- Philippians 1:3–5, Paul prays with joy because of the partnership of others in the gospel: “I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine making request for you all with joy, for your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now”
- Colossians 1:9–10 – Paul continually prays that others “may be filled with the knowledge of his will… bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.”
Who needs more than that? Plain vanilla wonderful already!
Prayers in Scripture that Break Envy
- Job 42:10 – “And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job, when he had prayed for his friends.”
- Matthew 5:44 – “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” (If prayer changes your heart toward enemies, it will certainly soften it toward fellow laborers!)
- Romans 12:14–15 – “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.”
Rejoicing in Others’ Ministry Success
- 1 Corinthians 3:6–7 – “I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth.” (All success belongs to God—so we can rejoice when He prospers another’s work.)
- Philippians 1:15–18 – Paul rejoices even when others preach Christ from rivalry: “Whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in that I rejoice.”
- Romans 12:10 – “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”
Prayers in Scripture for Expanding Others’ Influence
- 2 Thessalonians 3:1 – “Finally, brothers, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may speed ahead and be honored, as happened among you.”
- Ephesians 6:18–20 – Paul asks for prayer that he and all the saints may boldly proclaim the gospel: “praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak”
- Psalm 115:14–15 – “May the Lord give you increase, you and your children! May you be blessed by the Lord, who made heaven and earth!”
These verses together give a strong biblical framework: prayer not only blesses others but also frees us from envy, reshaping our hearts to celebrate what God is doing through someone else. Prayer shifts our focus from comparison to collaboration, from competition to Kingdom partnership. It’s hard to stay jealous when you’re sincerely praying for someone else! It’s hard to be in competition with someone who you want to see win!
There was a preacher I followed in my younger days, and he used to say something that I always remember: “what you make happen for others, God will make happen for you!” When I couple that with powerful Scripture about prayer like the above, I’m inspired by the abundance that Christ offers - and I realize that praying for others makes me part of something bigger than me. The abundance that Christ means for all of us is realized in my life, and I rejoice when I see His abundance in the lives of those around me.
Let’s pray for each other today - because the dropping the scarcity mentality in exchange for an abundance mentality is a treasure!
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I originally wrote this blog back in December of 2020. All of us remember that year well - probably for both good reasons and not-so-good reasons! I thought it would be fun to re-visit and update - and to be honest, the Lord stirred this word up in my spirit afresh!
Does anyone need relief from anxiety? Are you tired of fighting your own battles? I am in Psalm 46 (and I don’t mean to destroy your favorite verse) but I want to focus on one statement here: “Be still and know that I am God".
Psalm 46 is one of the most quoted passages in the Bible — but do we really understand what it means? If you’ve ever asked “What does ‘Be still and know that I am God’ mean?” or wanted a deeper Bible study on Psalm 46, this chapter holds powerful encouragement for anyone looking for relief from anxiety or fear.
The History Behind Psalm 46
Psalm 46 is a psalm of the “sons of Korah.” To make the history lesson as short as possible (though you know I dearly love a history lesson!), Korah led a revolt against Moses (that story is in Numbers 16). Even though I can’t match this up chronologically, Psalm 46 and Numbers 16 seem to have some similarities. The battle was fierce and the Lord prevailed.
The Voice of Psalm 46
In Psalm 46, we have 11 statements/11 verses. 10 of the 11 sound like man speaking about God, recognizing difficult times and confessing God’s power to save. (I notated these as “we” statements, because they’re spoken from man’s perspective.)
But one statement sounds different — as though God Himself is speaking: our favorite, verse 10: “Be still, and know that I am God.”
What Does “Be Still and Know That I Am God” Really Mean?
Oftentimes, we receive this as God speaking directly to us — to still our hearts and quiet our spirits, to let Him work on our behalf. And that’s not wrong! It’s good to be still before the Lord, to rest in total trust. But is that truly the context of Psalm 46:10?
Let’s look together:
We confess: “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”
We confess: “Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea;”
We confess: “Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.”
Selah
We confess: “There is a river, the streams whereof shall make glad the city of God, the holy place of the tabernacles of the most High.”
We confess: “God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early.”
We witness: “The heathen raged, the kingdoms were moved: he uttered his voice, the earth melted.”
We say: “The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.”
Selah
We instruct: “Come, behold the works of the Lord, what desolations he hath made in the earth.”
We witness: “He maketh wars to cease unto the end of the earth; he breaketh the bow, and cutteth the spear in sunder; he burneth the chariot in the fire.”
GOD SAYS: “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.”
We rest: “The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.”
Selah
God Speaks to the Enemy, Not Just to Us
I’m just imagining, putting myself in the scene….. This is a battle — heavens raging, kingdoms moving, earth melting, bows breaking, chariots burning. And this is the moment God tells me to “be still”?
It makes more sense that this is the moment God stands between me and my enemy. This is when God scoops me out of harm’s way and tells my enemy to back off. This is the moment He thunders to the enemy: “Be still, and know that I am God.”
Naturally, I looked it up in my Strongs (you know I did, y’all!). Want to know what “still” means?
STILL, H7503: to slacken (in many applications, literal or figurative): abate, cease, consume, draw, fail, (be) faint, be feeble, forsake, idle, leave, let alone, (be) slack, stay, be still, be slothful, weaken.
Does it sound like God is telling me: “Jennifer, you be weakened and slothful, faint and feeble, and know that I am God”?
Or does it sound like God is speaking to the enemy? “Enemy, you be weakened and feeble, faint and failing — and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the heathen. I will be exalted in all the earth.”
Finding Peace in the Bible Today
It’s true: we need to rest in God’s everlasting arms, be refreshed in His presence, and be still before Him in adoration and worship. But lately, I find even more comfort in the fact that God is the one commanding my enemy to be still. That’s when I can confess with peace and calm, my selah in verse 11:
“The Lord of Hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.”
Remember: finding relief from anxiety isn’t about ignoring the battle around you or pretending everything is fine. It’s about trusting God’s power, resting in His presence, and letting Him fight for you. Take a moment today to breathe, pause, and declare with your heart: “The Lord of Hosts is with me; the God of Jacob is my refuge.” When we let God take control, peace replaces fear, and we can truly experience the calm that comes from knowing He is God.
For anyone looking for relief from anxiety, chaos, or fear: please know that you can release this burden to the Lord and let Him do His work! Today and every day, the knowledge that the Lord of Hosts is with us is a treasure - and I am praying that you will find peace in that knowledge today!
I used to teach music in an elementary school. Several years ago, my handbell choir and my mallet band were invited to perform at a local theater, part of benefit concert concert for a local charity. We were really excited to participate, and we were also excited to be allowed to stay and watch the entire concert! I wrote this blog after one of our performances back in 2017, and it fit with the theme of the past couple of weeks - I thought it was worth re-visiting!
One of my students sat next to me during this concert. He had a charming habit that I always remember: he would sit on the edge of his seat, so excited, with his hands raised to chest level and ready to go. At first, I didn’t understand his stance (can’t he just sit still, relax, stay awhile?), but my little friend quickly explained: “Mrs. Spivey, I like to start the clap! I want to be the first one to start clapping, and the whole audience will follow me!” It still makes me smile today, years later. My student was quick to celebrate the success of others – what an incredible trait to learn so young! It’s a great example and lesson for us!
For my student, the concert was that: a concert. It wasn’t a competition. He was excited to be there and share his talents, and it didn’t take anything away from him at all that others were invited to share theirs as well. His joy wasn’t diminished – in fact, it was the total opposite: he wanted to “start the clap”!
I love people who love to celebrate the gifts of others – they are a joy to be around, and super encouraging! We have some great examples in the Word of people who were quick to celebrate. How about the dad in the story of the prodigal son? When he saw his estranged son, look at his response:
“while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ranand embraced him and kissed him” Luke 15:20 ESV
He immediately had his servants prepare a party – he said to bring the best robe quickly and gave them a list of things to prepare for a celebration (Luke 15:22-24). He “started the clap”!
The prodigal’s brother had a much different response. He was upset at his father’s joy, and somehow got the idea that a celebration of his brother took something away from him. His father had to explain, “Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. It was fitting to celebrate and be glad” (Luke 15:31b-32a).
Important to notice: the prodigal’s return didn’t take a single thing away from the brother – nothing was reallocated, nothing was lost. Actually, something was added: his brother, back in his life! This was cause to celebrate, but the brother couldn’t because he made it all about himself. Maybe you know someone who has adopted this attitude, centered around self. Maybe you have been someone who has adopted this attitude, centered around self. A friend gets a raise, gets a contract, gets an inheritance, gets a new car…. what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Do you think, “Why them and not me?” or do you “start the clap”?
My student didn’t think that sharing the stage was taking anything away from us. His joy wasn’t diminished because he wasn’t the only one invited. He was happy to be there with everyone. He did his best on stage, played an important part and did well with his group. He then joined the audience and led them in “starting the clap”! His joy was genuine and contagious. He was ready to start the celebration! I love that! If a 10 year old can do it, we can do it too!
The ability to value the gifts of others without allowing a root of jealousy to form – that’s a treasure. Romans 12:15 says to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep”. Oddly enough, sometimes the weeping part is easier than the rejoicing part. I’m praying that you will find that, in this life, there is enough joy to go around. I’m praying that you will be able to recognize that the blessings of God in someone else’s life do not take away or diminish yours at all.
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In the meantime, I’m praying that you will be the one to “start the clap” - because in the abundant life that Jesus offers to us, there are enough treasures to share!
Jennifer
Competition has no place in the Kingdom of God. It’s not a principle of Heaven, and it’s certainly not the posture of a heart that understands who God is and what He’s building.
When I spent weeks blogging and podcasting about seasons of transition, I kept returning to this principle: whether you are the incoming leader or the outgoing leader, you are not the comparison—you are the cheerleader. However, this principle applies to every single person in the body of Christ. If you are serving Jesus, you are serving the Body - not creating competition within it.
Think about what comparison does. It isolates. It fuels insecurity. It says, “If you succeed, there’s less for me.” Let me remind you, friend: that is a lie straight from the enemy. God is not limited. Someone else’s blessing does not diminish your portion. If anything, it should remind you of the greatness of the Giver. There is no place for a scarcity mentality here.
When we forget this, we start comparing, striving, and even resenting what God is doing in someone else. There's some red flags there, so hold up - Scripture reminds us over and over that we are one body. A hand should not work against another hand. An elbow should not oppose an eyeball. A shoulder should not trip up a toe. Each part matters. Each part plays a role. The body can only function properly when each part works together in unity.
Cheerleaders, on the other hand, celebrate progress and victory—whether or not they are the ones holding the trophy. They wave the banner of encouragement, not envy. They make noise for someone else’s moment, knowing that when one part of the body thrives, the entire body benefits.
Luke 5 paints this picture beautifully. When Jesus told Peter to put his nets back into the water after an exhausting, fishless night (is fishless a word? you get me!), the catch was so large that the nets began to break. What was Peter’s first reaction? Did he say, “I’ve got to keep this all to myself”? No. Scripture says he signaled for his partners in the other boat to come and help (Luke 5:6-7).
What God was doing for Peter was not just about Peter. It was about blessing others. It was about enlarging the circle of provision and letting the miracle overflow into other people’s boats.
That is how Kingdom success works. It’s never all about you. If God has given you a gift, a platform, or an opportunity, He’s given it not just to you—but through you—for the body of Christ. When someone else in ministry receives a breakthrough, launches a new program, publishes a book, grows their platform, or leads someone to Christ, it is not a threat to you. It is a reason to celebrate!
We live in a culture that often measures value by visibility and success by numbers. But Kingdom work isn’t measured that way. When one church thrives, the Kingdom advances. When another leader has a fruitful season, heaven rejoices. When heaven rejoices, that;'s our cue to rejoice as well!
Paul makes this clear in Romans 12:15: “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” This is not a suggestion—it is a command. A Christlike posture sees another’s success and says, “Thank You, Lord, for what You are doing in them—and through them—for all of us.”
Psalm 84 gives us another glimpse of God’s design for His people: “They go from strength to strength; till each appears before God in Zion” (v. 7). Notice the wording: they go—not he or she, but they. The psalmist is painting a picture of a people on pilgrimage together, drawing strength not just from God, but from one another, until every single one of them reaches the destination.
When I imagine standing before the Lord at the end of my race, I don’t want to come empty-handed or with a spirit of rivalry. I want to arrive arm in arm, hand in hand, raising up my brothers and sisters, celebrating what God has done in all of us. I want to know that I spent my life building others up—not tearing them down, not comparing, not competing—but cheering until the very end.
The beautiful truth about following Christ is that this is not a race where only one person wins. There are no podiums in heaven—only crowns laid at the feet of Jesus. We are all running toward the same finish line, all pursuing the same glory—His glory.
Friend, refuse to engage in competition within the body of Christ. Let’s cheer one another on with every ounce of faith and joy we have. When we finally stand before the Lord, my prayer is that we'll be together—arm in arm, hand in hand—celebrating the goodness of God in all of us. Truth belongs to the Lord. Every gift, calling, or opportunity He places in our hands is not for our glory, but for the benefit of the body of Christ - and when we share joyfully, we share a treasure! <3
Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
That little verse holds a very big idea. Paul is telling us that when we bear one another’s burdens—when we show love in tangible, practical ways—we are actually fulfilling the law of Christ. What law? The law that Jesus Himself gave us: to love one another, and to be known by that love.
It’s one thing to talk about love, but Paul takes it a step further. He reminds us to put feet on it. Love isn’t only a feeling; it’s an action. Bearing one another’s burdens means praying for each other, lifting each other up, helping each other, and taking action to care for one another in real and practical ways.
For me, this verse is both a comfort and a conviction.
This verse comforts me because it reminds me that I am not alone. If you’ve been with me for any length of time, you know how important relationships are to me. Of course, my relationship with Jesus comes first—but investing in spiritual friendships matters to me as well. This verse reassures me that community is part of God’s design. We weren’t made to walk through life alone.
This verse convicts me because it reminds me that bearing one another’s burdens goes both ways: it means that I share your burdens and also that you share mine.
The first part—helping others—that comes naturally to me. I’m honored to pray for someone, to encourage, to step in and help however I can. But the second part—the part where I’m the one who shares my burdens—doesn’t come as easily.
Can I be vulnerable with you? Somewhere along the way, I picked up a lie: “If I’m not perfect, you won’t love me.” Because of that lie, sharing my own burdens sometimes feels risky. What if I’m rejected? What if people see my weakness and step back instead of leaning in? Maybe you can relate?
The truth is, it’s hard to let others see the places where we’re weak - but if we keep everything inside, we’re missing the fullness of what God designed community to be. (I’m not suggesting that you tell everybody everything. That wouldn’t be wise. We need to use discernment and listen to the Holy Spirit about what to share and with whom. But keeping everything to ourselves isn’t wisdom either).
One of my favorite verses that reminds me of this truth is Psalm 103:14: “The Lord knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.” God knows our weaknesses. He knows our limits. Still, in His kindness, He placed us in families, in communities, and in relationships with one another so that no one has to walk alone.
Sometimes we forget that perfection was never the expectation. Yes, some people may wrongly expect it, but God never does. He sees our weaknesses, and instead of rejecting us, He meets us with compassion. That’s the same heart we should have toward one another: grace, love, and a judgment-free space where burdens can be shared.
Isaiah 40:11 gives us a beautiful picture of how God deals with us: “He shall feed His flock like a shepherd; He shall gather the lambs with His arm, carry them in His bosom, and gently lead those who are with young.”
What a picture of gentleness. Our Shepherd doesn’t deal harshly with us. He carries us close to His heart. He leads us with tenderness. He loves us when we’re strong and when we’re weak, when we get it right and when we get it wrong. Friend, He delights in you. On your best days and on your worst days, you are a delight to the Lord.
When we live in that freedom—resting in His love—we can extend the same freedom to others. We can walk in grace toward one another, allowing our community to be a safe place where burdens can be shared.
John 3:16 is a verse many of us learned as children: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.”
But we often forget to read the very next verse: “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through Him” (John 3:17).
Our salvation is a free gift. It’s not something we can earn, and it’s not something we can lose by not being “perfect enough.” There is no condemnation in Christ.
If that’s true, then our communities should reflect the same freedom. Bearing one another’s burdens should never come with fear or judgment. You should be able to come to me without fear, and I should be able to come to you without fear—because we’re not trying to meet an impossible standard. We’re simply living as beloved children of God.
If you serve in ministry—a pastor’s wife, pastor, small group leader, Bible study teacher—this can feel even harder. There’s a real (or sometimes imagined) pressure to appear perfect in front of those you serve. I’ve felt that too.
Let me encourage you: don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Don’t carry the weight of perfection on your shoulders. As you bear the burdens of others, also allow others to bear yours. That’s not weakness—it’s obedience.
When we do this, letting this burden sharing happen on both sides, we’re not just helping each other. We’re fulfilling the law of Christ. Let’s be the kind of people who carry each other’s burdens. Let’s create spaces where it’s safe to be honest, where grace and love flow freely, and where no one has to fear rejection.
We don’t have to be perfect to be loved—by God or by each other. And when we live that way, we fulfill the very law of Christ: to love one another as He has loved us. What a treasure that is! <3
This morning, I’ve been thinking about a promise from Jesus that doesn’t usually make it onto Instagram feeds or coffee mugs. It’s not the one we highlight with glittery pens or turn into wall art, but it is a promise—and it’s one that speaks to real life:
“In this world you will have tribulation.” John 16:33 (NKJV)
Tribulation. Storms. Struggle.
“Praise the Lord from the earth, You great sea creatures and all the depths; Fire and hail, snow and clouds; Stormy wind, fulfilling His word.” Psalm 148:7–8 (NKJV)
These aren’t the moments we rush to post online. We tend to reserve our social media feeds for the highlights—the celebrations, the breakthroughs, the pretty parts of the journey. But what about the fire? The hail? The stormy wind?
Even the stormy wind fulfills His word. That’s hard to grasp sometimes. We believe God is with us in the peaceful places—but what about when life gets loud and chaotic? What about when we’re tossed around by disappointment, uncertainty, or waiting?
The Bible never promises a life free of storms. But it does promise purpose in them and presence through them. Storms don’t disqualify you from God’s promises. They may, in fact, be the very setting where those promises are forged more deeply into your soul.
Scripture also says this:
“The end of a thing is better than its beginning; The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.” Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NKJV)
The end is better than the beginning. But what about the middle?
What about that awkward, stretched-out space between where we started and where we hope to end up? What about the gap?
There’s often a long and confusing distance between the first step of obedience and the moment of breakthrough. Between the letting go and the stepping in. Between the storm and the rescue.
That in-between space is hard.
It’s tempting to question the path, doubt the decision, or wonder if we’ve missed something. But more often than not, the gap is exactly where God is growing our faith.
Maybe you’re in that space today. You said “yes” to something God placed in your heart. You followed His leading. You obeyed. But now… things feel quiet. Or messy. Or painful. Or like nothing is happening at all.
If that’s you, I want to encourage you: the gap is not evidence of God’s absence. It’s an invitation to deeper trust.
Jesus didn’t stop at “you will have tribulation.” He continued with confidence and compassion:
“But be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
He reminds us that we’re never alone. Not in the joy and not in the struggle. Not at the finish line and not in the wilderness. He has already overcome—and that changes everything.
This morning, a friend texted me a verse she’s been holding onto—a “light at the end of the tunnel” kind of promise. It immediately lifted something in my spirit, and I want to share it with you, too:
“Unto the upright there ariseth light in the darkness: He is gracious, and full of compassion, and righteous.” Psalm 112:4 (KJV)
Light in the darkness.
What a beautiful phrase. Not just light after the darkness. Light in it.
God doesn’t wait for the storm to end to show up. He doesn’t wait for you to figure it out before offering His compassion. He is gracious and kind and righteous—right in the middle of your mess.
The gap doesn’t mean you’re lost.
It doesn’t mean the story is over.
It just means you’re in the middle.
The middle matters more than we often realize. It’s where character is shaped. It’s where trust is refined. It’s where you learn not just to believe in God’s promises—but to believe in His heart.
If you find yourself in a waiting season today, I want you to know:
You are not behind. You are not overlooked. You are not forgotten. You are simply between the beginning and the breakthrough. The storm may still be raging, but the Lord is still speaking. The fire may be refining, but His compassion is still surrounding. The path may feel uncertain, but His presence is steady and sure.
So hang in there, friend. You don’t need to see the whole map to trust the One who wrote it. You don’t need the full ending to rest in the Author of your story. You don’t need a picture-perfect update to prove that God is working.
He is working - and when the light arises you’ll see how deeply He’s been present in the process all along.
So if you’re in the gap today—between the step and the arrival, between the storm and the rescue—take heart. You’re not alone. You’re not empty. You’re not forgotten. And you're not alone - I'm here with you.
You’re walking with the One who has already overcome - and that is a promise, a treasure, worth holding on to <3
